Seduction

Men and women have terms for the opposite sex when they have been treated badly by them. In most cases, women are considered "evil" and men are considered "jerks". You don't usually ever hear a woman being referred to as a jerk or a man being called evil. Why is each name so substantial and specific to the gender? My thoughts are that it's due to culture clichés and the unaccepted reality.

When you think about someone being seduced, it is usually thought of a man seducing a woman. Conversely, I think a man is more easily seduced than a woman and probably more often seduced. That's because a man wants to be seduced. I don't think that a man has as much control over sexual cravings as a woman. (Or at least they don't try to control them) In general, a man would be thrilled to have a woman come on to him and he probably isn't looking for a relationship anyway, so both parties end up getting what they want. To be used by a woman can even be something for a guy to brag about.

Usually the man doesn't consider the woman to be in the wrong, and the focus is typically turned around to the man who is basking in and bragging about is own irresistibility. However, if a man should make a connection on a deeper level with the woman and the woman is simply seducing him to please herself, she has now become "evil". Because hurting a guy isn't something that usually happens in these situations (not to mention how unspeakable it is for guys in our culture to admit that they are hurting) the woman acquires a status of heartlessness.

Now, if a woman were to be seduced by a man, it seems to be more common (though I've already admitted that I think women usually do more of the seducing). Because it seems to be more common, we, as a culture, have accepted it as typical male behavior and they are just considered to be jerks. The collective thought is "Men should know better than to seduce a woman… when are they going to learn". And even though the woman may be blameless in these situations, they can end up with the brunt of the criticism. They can be considered fools for even believing that the guy had good intentions and she should have known better then to trust a guy.

I don't know if it's fair to consider a woman to be evil and a man a jerk. I don't even know that the comparison between them is a balanced one. The woman is considered to have a deeper wickedness and is being purposefully malicious, when a man is just considered mindless and inconsiderate. Is it fair that a woman's whole persona is viewed negatively after the incident whereas a man simply gets a slap on the wrist and "typical" muttered under your breath?

The fact is that we are just as guilty as the opposite sex. No one likes to get hurt, but we all seem to do a lot of it. It doesn't matter who does it more, who accepts it, who likes it, or who gets away with it. If you do it, you're wrong. End of story. We all need to own up to that. Everyone does so much taking from others that there is nothing left to take. There is nothing but lies and deceit.

If we actually started caring about others more than ourselves, everything that we have would come back ten-fold. So much giving would mean a truly fulfilled life, world, and person.